Ladies, do not make excuses and say you didn’t know when enough was
enough.Here are 4 red flags that should give you the key to exit the
relationship, as soon as you can.
1. He cheatsMany
people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who
have fidelity issues repair their relationship and end up better than
where they were pre-cheating. But it’s not the act of cheating that’s
the deal-breaker here; it’s the disrespect, broken trust and significant
risk to your health. (Hello, STDS!) With all the risks that hang in the
balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it’s entirely inconsiderate
and selfish when a man cheats on you. Do you want someone who puts his
wants before your needs, like security and trust? You should not, which
is why you have to say BYE to cheating men.
2. He gets violent, even if he doesn’t hit you
You
may think this is a no-brainer but honestly it isn’t. Most women I know
who’ve been in abusive relationships have immense strength, only to
shut down in
the presence of her partner’s anger and violence. No
healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you
never know when his actions may escalate.
3. He doesn’t claim or proclaim you
Many
women will spend time in limbo-like relationships with guys who won’t
give them the girlfriend title. Here’s the truth: If you’ve been dating a
man for longer than six to nine months and he hasn’t made you an
official part of his life, it’s time to MOVE ON. Stop making excuses for
why things aren’t progressing to the next level; you’ll only waste time
and your time is worth more than that. Don’t settle for less because
you don’t want a man who makes you a bargain-bin find. If he knows your
worth, he’ll claim and proclaim you and there will be few conversations
about how ‘he isn’t ready.’
4. He suffers from addiction
There
are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when
he’s fallen on hard times. But CAUTION if you stick with a man fighting
demons, namely addiction. Addiction can range from less-severe, like
cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol, pornography and s*x.
Someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything – and I mean
anything – to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love. So
unless you’d like to be second to whatever vices he has, it may be time
to ‘leave smoke.’
